There are a couple of bloggers whom I follow avidly. They both have one main similarity: Both are gay men living in foreign countries pursuing their dreams and adventures in exotic lands. However, the rest is so different. One is presumably a gay White European who lives most of his time (between visa runs) in Thailand, while the other is a gay Afro-American guy currently living in South Africa.
It is fascinating to me on how their own roots affect the way they view relationships, love, sex, work, in the countries where they set up to carry their adventures. Both are (or have experienced) relationships with local men. The White European blogger calls his blog gayboythailand (see here), while the Afro-American guy is Lindito (see here). As much as they love or hate their living situations, they write from the viewpoints of their roots. For instance, Mr. Lindito’s latest entry explains his reasons why he does not do interracial relationships. But for him, the meaning of “interracial” is between a White person and a Black person. So, for him a relationship with a person like I may not be considered “interracial?” I don’t know. I suspect that he is so narrow focused on the power struggles based on skin color that Asians or other Non-Whites do not register in his gaydar. Mr. Lindito exclusively dates Black men. However, I noticed that he dates Black men outside of his Afro-American group. I don’t know the reason why. Maybe the exotic factor.
On the other hand, Mr. gayboythailand views his relationship with a young Thai guy in a very similar way as other wealthier White foreigners. Basically, akin of a father-son relationship with sexual privileges. His writings show how difficult it is to carry a relationship based on the beauty of one of the partners and the financial strength of the other. There does not seem to be anything else that bonds them.
I would like to thank both bloggers for their continuing adventures (and corresponding writings). They have helped me obtain some insight as to what makes the heart wander.